Wednesday, February 12, 2014

Weekly Challenge - Week 1 - Letter to yourself...

Dear Emily,
Well done on signing up to 12WBT for your 8th consecutive round. I know that you have struggled not to feel like a failure that you haven't achieved your goal weight and that after 8 rounds you still feel like you have so far to go. You need to remember how far you have come. Do you remember that family holiday at the beach, right before you first found out about 12WBT? Do you remember how hard it was climbing the stairs where you stayed and how after two days there you could barely walk from the pain in your muscles? How uncomfortable you felt...all the time? Well since that time you have lost 30kgs and 47cms. You have learned to run. You have found a grit and determination that you never dreamed was lurking there inside you.

As your dear friend Debbie would say, "You LIVE your life instead of watching from the sidelines".
You need to watch your own video again and be proud of who you are and what you have achieved so far.

Go! Watch it now! HERE!

I know that you are apprehensive about your 8th round because you want to set an achievable but challenging goal. You have admitted to me and one or two others, that your dream result for this round would be to finish at 90kgs. GREAT! Lets make it happen! You have set goals before and you have achieved them. You can do it again. I know this is different because you have never placed a weight loss goal on paper because the pressure worries you - but in another dear friend's words - "Babe, you've got this".

So let's nut this out, let's make some plans. It's mid week 2 (and yes this is a week 1 task - I can hear you already saying how you wasted week 1 - GET OVER IT!) so lets work on the remaining 10 weeks. You gained this week and you owned it. Good for you. So you are starting from today at 105.1kgs. You want to be 90kgs so the goal is to lose 15.1kgs in 10 weeks. That's an average weekly loss of 1.51kgs. Very achievable. Again, I can hear you freaking out saying you never lose that much in a week but you have done it. Look back at your stats and think about those weeks and why you were so successful. What did you do well then? You planned your food, you planned your training and you STUCK to your plans.
So what do you have to do? Stick to your plan for the next 10 weeks. I'm proud of you for getting stuck into it last week and setting up a new goal chart and adapting the one for your stats from last round. This is a wonderful start. Now you need to get in and get your menu for week 3 sorted.
You need to NOT TURN OFF YOUR ALARM TOMORROW MORNING. I know you haven't been coping well lately. I know that the painful loss you suffered back in August haunts you every month and sends you into an emotional spiral but you need to take control of it. Channel the emotion into your exercise and use this time while you are not growing a baby to get closer to your goal weight and healthier so that next time you fall pregnant it will be a happier story. No-one knows why these things happen but it can't hurt to get as physically fit and healthy as possible to give yourself the best start.
You need to stop comparing yourself to others. It is ok to be the slow and steady achiever. In fact you need to celebrate your steady commitment and continued focus. Sure you've hit some speed bumps where your weight has fluctuated a little, but each time you pick yourself up, dust yourself off and you start again and that is true commitment and focus. WELL DONE! I'm so proud. You came a long way in this during round 4. You committed to doing the round as if it were your first, and I challenge you to embrace the next 10 weeks in that way. Find that spark inside you that I know is there. I know you can do this and I believe in you wholeheartedly.
Your other goal for this round is to be able to run 10kms. You want to register for the Gold Coast 10km fun run. I know you are scared and haven't taken any steps towards that yet. Think back to Christmas when you first ran 5kms when only two weeks before you could only run 3. You can totally do this. You know most of it is a mind game, persisting long enough to run that far. Again lets break it down. You can already run 5km so to get to 10 you need to increase by 5km in 10 weeks. That's an average increase of 500m each week. Totally doable! Focus on the small goals...each step which will take you to the end goal.
These are the goals that I know you are thinking you want but don't really think you could possibly achieve them.  You want to be 90kgs but deep down you don't believe you can do it. You want to be able to run a fun run and eventually a marathon but you don't believe you can do it. Well I do. I believe and for now I will carry and support your belief.
Let's break it down - here's what I am going to help you achieve over the next 10 weeks.

Weight goal
Running goal
101.9 kg
6 km
100.3 kg
6.5 km
98.7 kg
7 km
97.1 kg
7.5 km
95.5 kg
8 km
93.9 kg
8.5 km
92.3 kg
9 km
90.7 kg
9.5 km
90 kg
10 km

See, that is ACHIEVABLE. I've set you a weight goal for each week, on average if you are getting to those mini goals by week 12 you will be there. Don't be afraid to ask for help, I'll be checking in to make sure you are ok and are finding positive ways of coping with your emotions and those old habits that have crept back. It's time for some tough love. Think about what you want. Make some decisions about what you are willing to compromise on in your life. How badly do you want it. I want it for you, but you have to want it for yourself. You know this. And you know you are capable.

Lean on that spunky husband of yours. Ask him to support you. You know he would climb mountains for just speak up. IT'S TIME! 

So, tomorrow morning when the alarm goes off, I'll be right there with you. We'll do it together. I'll be right there cheering you on every day, encouraging you and reminding you that you are a strong, capable and beautiful woman. You are a wonderful friend and as a quiet achiever you are showing others that everyone runs their own race - and that is not just ok - its the way it should be. Every person is different. Their challenges are different.






all my love and support,


  1. Yep, I think she's right. You've got this. And if the voice who wrote the letter is inside your head, you have so got it.
    Go Em.

    1. Perhaps I should have prefaced this with the fact that this is the week 1 challenge for the current Michelle Bridges 12WBT - to write a letter to yourself encouraging yourself and saying the things a close friend might to all our concerns and doubts. Pretty cool task really!

      Thanks for your kind words Debra!

  2. Oh Em this is heartbreaking in a lovely way! It's so beautiful, I love it. Such a brave, raw post and I hope you read this often as a reminder. Love Kate xx